Attorneys Can Only Wish for Clients a Peaceful, Agreeable Divorce
Couples can try hard to get along to make their divorce process easier for the children and each other by at least agreeing to disagree. Couples can worsen the situation by constantly fighting and displaying angry outbursts that accomplish nothing and refusing to communicate with each other.
There is no doubt that going through a divorce can be a breath of fresh air. Divorce can also be a confusing, complicated, and traumatic time in your life and that of your children if children are involved. Most clients tell us that divorce is emotionally and physically draining and one of the most stressful things to experience.
Divorced Used to Grossly Unfair to the Husband
For years, men were given the short end of the straw when it came to a divorce. Each spouse needs an experienced divorce attorney by their side to guide and direct the most vital decisions of their lives. Your attorney helps prevent you or your spouse from making mistakes that affect the rest of your life.
Many divorce laws were changed through attorneys and advocacy groups’ hard work to make divorce rights equal between the husband and wife. The states finally realized that a man in a divorce was not allowed equal rights under the law. Times have changed, and a husband has now become an equal and is treated as fairly as a wife.
Now that men’s divorce rights are equal to women’s divorce rights. Men no longer fear the loss of everything in divorce proceedings that they worked hard for so many years to attain. This is when significant decisions must be made and agreed to by both parties, and equality of rights can make these decisions a bit easier in regards to,
- Division of assets and debts
- The family home
- Child custody, visitation rights, and income support
- Divorce mediation
- Parents’ and grandparents’ rights
- Prenuptial and postnuptial agreements
- Alimony and spousal support
- Cohabitation agreements
- Domestic violence
- Child abduction
- Restraining orders
- Child abuse issues
- Removal or relocation of a parent or child
Our divorce attorneys fight for equal divorce rights under New Jersey law during the divorce process and handle all matters listed above.
The Cost of Divorce in New Jersey
Divorce can be an expensive proposition and is usually a decision that leaves you no other option but to plan on paying what you may be required to pay to proceed with your divorce. The first question we get asked by a potential client wanting a divorce is,
“How much does it cost for a divorce in New Jersey?”
Clients are surprised when we tell them that there are other costs besides our fee for divorce proceedings. There are three specific cost areas, and we explain to you that you must weigh these costs carefully and be sure that you have no other option except for a divorce. Sometimes you pay for these costs for the rest of your life.
- There is a financial cost that eventually gets marked as paid in full.
- There is a time cost in which you never get back.
- There is an emotional cost that may follow you for the rest of your life. Your children may carry the burden of their parents’ divorce for the rest of their lives. Sometimes, children have harsh feelings and behavior issues due to divorce. Sometimes, the children carry the most significant burden because they believe they caused the divorce.
The Monetary Cost of Divorce in New Jersey
The average financial cost of a divorce in New Jersey is calculated at an hourly rate. This rate can run from $200.00 to $500.00 per hour. Be aware of lawyers who charge less than or more than these amounts.
- Lawyers who charge less than $200.00 per hour may not be qualified to act on your behalf. They may not protect your rights, and you may not see a successful outcome to your divorce.
- Lawyers who charge over $500.00 are overcharging clients too much money for their services.
There may be other monetary costs and fees associated with your divorce in addition to your attorney’s fees, such as,
- Filing fees
- Courier fees
- Copying costs
- Incidental expenses
A possible paralegal or legal assistant fee may be associated with your divorce, which you have to pay. However, this is not the case for every divorce attorney.
During your free, no-obligation consultation, make sure you ask your attorney what the fees are for a divorce in New Jersey and how they are calculated. You never want to be surprised at the final tally of divorce costs.
Ask your attorney about any alimony, assets, and child support costs. You must understand your responsibilities for these various costs.
Will the Emotional Cost of Your Divorce Far Exceed the Monetary Cost of Divorce?
When all is said and done, you may discover that you paid a higher price for the emotional cost of your divorce. The emotional cost of a divorce is more difficult to calculate than the monetary cost. Frequently, it is impossible to put a price tag on the emotional cost of a divorce.
For this reason, the emotional cost of divorce, your attorney asks you to be very sure that you have no other option than to file for divorce. Your attorney wants to make sure you understand the possible ramifications of divorce.
Perhaps you already realize that the risks for you and your children are more significant if you do not proceed with a divorce. Your divorce attorney needs to understand your circumstances and your feelings so they can better guide and direct your path.
There is no quick way to know how divorce affects other family members, especially children, long-term. How will feelings be affected long-term, especially if the divorce was a complicated contested divorce, or the children were constantly pitted against a parent?
Perhaps there were physical, mental, and emotional abuse issues from the husband or wife against each other. Maybe the children were either physically, mentally, or emotionally abused by one or both parents.
Children and adults may carry this emotional cost for their entire life. No one, including you or your seasoned attorney, knows what the future holds for you and your family. The cost of these emotional issues tends to fade a bit with each passing year. However, the price you pay for this emotional cost never completely disappears.
This emotional cost is frequently carried from generation to generation depending on the divorce circumstances, such as abuse issues. Sometimes, children become abusive parents because they cannot seem to break this vicious cycle. Fortunately, many children learn from their parents’ mistakes and can break this abuse cycle that once presented them with a high emotional cost.
While some families find it best to overlook the emotional cost of pain from divorce and try to deal with these issues down the road, other families opt to face the emotional pain immediately, experience it short-term, and hope for a better outcome in the near future.
Just as every spouse is different, every family has varying degrees of need. There is no cookie-cutter solution for every divorce. You must decide what is right for you and your family.
Our divorce attorneys are sensitive to the needs of both spouses, and we strongly encourage each spouse to hire a divorce attorney, no matter how well each gets along with the other. Divorce rights must still be considered and protected for the divorce to be fair to each spouse and the children. Of course, there can be extenuating circumstances requiring special attention.
The ideal divorce is where both sides pleasantly agree on every issue, and the children remain happy and feel secure no matter what parent receives full-time care. Frequently, divorced parents who agree on issues are awarded joint custody and remain in close communication for the children’s sake.
Unfortunately, this is rarely the case. There are serious divorce issues that require the assistance of a seasoned, licensed divorce attorney who believes in equal rights for both the husband and wife. However, some situations dictate that the court removes these rights from one and sometimes both parents.
An Immediate Call for Divorce Help
Our goal for you is to remove as much divorce stress as possible so you can move forward after this significant life-changing event. We are fierce advocates of men’s legal rights during a divorce. However, we also advocate equal fairness to the wife. Gone are the days when everything was awarded to the wife, including the children, the house, spousal payments, and even the mortgage payments. There were no other options for the man.
Men may get fair equality in a divorce as much as a wife. Sometimes there are no alternatives due to unique situations, and the husband is awarded everything, and the wife is left with much less. Additionally, she must be the one to make spousal payments.
As your attorney, we must accomplish many things during a divorce and before your divorce is finalized. Our attorneys act reasonably with their clients, spouses, and other attorneys. We work hard to provide fairness and make you understand your legal rights during your divorce. We will make sure you fully understand New Jersey’s complicated divorce laws.
If you see a possible divorce in your future, please give our esteemed attorneys a call as soon as possible so we can review your case and help you understand the vital issues before you. Schultz & Associates, located in Hackensack, New Jersey, worked hard to win the community’s trust in Hackensack and surrounding areas. We work hard to ensure you receive the best possible outcome in your divorce, despite your circumstances.